And if this little bit of silliness brings some momentary fun for you & your family, that makes me very happy!

you are amazing!

You are awesome and I am honored to be called your friend.

Chad

Thanks for sharing a piece of your story and I pray for you to have restoration as well. Praise God for peace of mind and willing forgiveness.

Since you live so close, I would love to connect in person one day. I will be working in Vancouver probably at least one day a week so maybe we can grab coffee some time. You can friend me on facebook or follow on twitter so we can chat. bclayville on Facebook or brianclayville on twitter.

I ended up here by way of your wife’s and initially her friends’ blogs. Thanks to both of you for sharing your story so that others can marvel at God’s hand working in your lives. My story bears some similarities to yours. There was someone else in my wife’s life, but unfortunately there was a decision on her part to divorce and continue on that path. Its been final for just over 3 months. Re: your question about showing 1 Corinthians-kind of love, that is indeed what God put on my heart when she first made the announcement that she wanted out a year ago. I would never have predicted back then that I would be loving her more than I ever have, still willing to forgive all that has happened, never reacting toward her with anger or bitterness. God has shown me that 1 Corinthians-kind of love knows no limits if we are willing to truly surrender. I am also believing in and hoping for reconciliation at some point, and trusting that God will work in my heart to sustain that love that He has called me to hold for her. Peace <

PS – I live in Vancouver and will make it a point to visit your church in Portland some weekend.

You are the man! Thanks for letting me know that I am not lame. I am not lame, I am not lame, I am not lame…speaking to my mirror and I think it’s working.

I wish I had a simple answer for you that would make your pain go away. Sorry, I don’t.

I can tell you that my healing has happened because early on in this situation, we shared our story with a good hand full of people that we knew we could count on for prayer. They prayed over us continually as we worked together to heal. Jenni, my wife was also seeking restoration and putting a lot of effort into achieving that. We had help from a counselor and a coach who helped us navigate emotional damage from the past.

The best thing you can do is to widen your circle of prayer warriors and seek out a couple of people who can provide wise counsel and then act on it. I am truly sorry for your pain and will gladly pray for you as well.